The Art of Happiness Be Happy Now!
Would you like to be 100% happier than you are now? How about 1,000% happier? What stands between you and having greater happiness now? Read on to see how you can discover the happiness you’re looking for in your life. It’s just one step away.
Have you ever noticed how often people rely on others in their pursuit of happiness? How they expect someone else to make them happy? You might hear people say things like: “If only he would be nicer.” “Didn’t she know that would hurt my feelings?” “I would be happy if he would only talk to me more.”
When people have this idea in their head they can spend a lot of time figuring out how to fix or change other people.
What’s the trouble if you try this strategy? Not only do the other people feel irritated, they often get defensive at your attempt to “FIX” them. And it leaves you powerless. If THEY don’t change, YOU can’t be happy.
But even more important is that, since what you focus your attention on grows, focusing on what you don’t like will cause it to become what you notice most in your life.
Say, for example, when your significant other comes home they often leave a trail with their clothes, bags, books, whatever, strewn throughout the house. It drives you nuts! Every time you look at the residue of stuff they leave behind them, you feel irritated.
This has gone on for so long that now you notice every little piece of debris, everywhere you look, all the time.
And what you focus your attention on grows.
Perhaps you say something like this to them: “Can’t you pick up after yourself? You are such a slob.”
It’s probably not the first time you’ve talked about the clothes on the floor. And probably not much has changed since that first time. So what happens next?
The person leaving the clothes around probably gets annoyed at being told what to do. You lose hope that things will ever change. And you focus more and more on what you don’t enjoy about your partner.
Remember, what you focus your attention on grows!
So here it is, the step that will move you closer to being happier than ever before: Develop YOUR ability to focus your attention on what you ENJOY.
Maybe this sounds too simple. But ask yourself: “What would my day be like if I started and ended it by simply noticing or remembering everything that I enjoy in my life?”
Remember, what you focus your attention on grows. Focus on what you enjoy – it’s quite simply the fastest, easiest step you can take to start finding happiness in every moment.
Try this. Pretend that you have an emotional bank account. Every one of your thoughts makes a deposit. This means that if you’re constantly depositing painful memories in your emotional bank account, they will grow and grow.
They’ll even start multiplying if you’re using the law of compound interest. What’s this? It’s compounding the effect of thoughts like: “What a slob!” with more thoughts like: “She doesn’t care about me.” or “He’s the most selfish person I’ve ever met.”
Now, do you feel happy?
Now imagine that each day, you look for things that you enjoy, and you are thankful for them.
Your significant other comes into the house and smiles. Is that something to be thankful for? They ask you if you would like a cup of tea. Is that something to be thankful for? You see them put something away, without being asked. Is that something to be thankful for?
Now imagine depositing these memories in your emotional bank account, day after day. And compound them with as many other thankful, grateful thoughts as you can so they grow and grow. “It’s lovely when he brings me tea; he’s so considerate sometimes.” “I’m so glad we like doing things together.” “We just have so much in common; she is so much fun to be with”
How do you feel now?
Happy or sad, good or bad, pleasure or pain – authentic happiness is up to you. Focus on what you enjoy. Enjoy being thankful. It’s something anyone can do, even you.
What you focus your attention on will grow. You do have an emotional bank account so start saving your happiness up today. With a bank-full of thankful, you’ll be a master at the art of “having happiness now.”
The road to inner peace is not found on any map or in any self-help book. Books can help guide you, but they can only point you in a direction, you have to find the actual path for yourself.
There are universal road signs and guideposts that help you to know when you are near, and when you have found the path, however.
The first sign you might encounter is when you are not upset by something that would have upset you before. The phrase, “don’t sweat the small stuff” is getting to be cliché, but it is still very true. When you can stop before you react to something, and reflect on whether or not it is worth the energy that it takes to get upset, you are really on your way! When you can measure an occurrence using the yardstick of time (is this really going to matter a year from now?), then you are well on your way to learning how to ACT instead of RE-ACT to a problem.
Another road sign on the way to inner peace is when the relationships around you change. If you have people around you who are negative or critical, they begin to fall away. People who are not looking for inner peace have a very hard time being around those who are. They often try to throw up roadblocks for the seeker, to waylay and mislead them. Like the highwaymen of old, they will rush in and try to rob you of your successes. However, when they see that they cannot drag you off of your path they will then begin to leave. You may also find that some of your relationships grow deeper and more fulfilling. Those around you who will benefit the most from your journey will begin to come along with you.
A big sign on the path is when other seekers are drawn to you. There is a subtle energy around the seekers of inner peace. They give off a glow that other seekers can feel. You may find yourself drawn to someone. Follow the inner glow, for seekers can always help each other find their personal paths.
Another guidepost to inner peace is when you begin to question things that been accepted in your life that may not be working for you anymore. Just because something has always been that way certainly doesnt make it right! Old patterns, old ways of dealing with things and people just dont seem to fit anymore. The dynamics of these old patterns are useless to you now. You begin to see new ways of doing things that produce much better results than the old ones ever did.
When you are on the path to inner peace, you can begin to see the Big Picture. You begin to see that there really is an order in the universe, a meaning to the things that happen in your life for good or for bad, and that even the so-called bad things can have a positive outcome ultimately. You begin to be able to look back, non-emotionally, and see the opportunities that were disguised as troubles in your life.
A major road sign on the inner peace path is when you can let go of the past. You are no longer driving your car in reverse. Recognizing that the past is over and done with, and that it is unchangeable is a huge sign. All energy spent on regret is wasted. Instead of wishing that you could change the past, you learn to change today! You can clearly see that today is all you have, and that you need to make it the best that it can be.
When you are on the path, you know that only inner beauty matters. You can let go of societys expectations and begin to just be yourself. You are working on who you are, not what you look like, and you accept this in others as well. It is only with the heart that one can clearly see; those are the only eyes that matter.
Another guidepost is seeing the blessings in everything. When you are on the path to inner peace, you are able to wake up each morning feeling happy, excited and hopeful for the day that you have been given, and every night you can count the blessings that you received and say thank you for them. After all, most blessings and miracles are just little things and easy to miss when you are not on the path, but each little thing becomes huge when you learn to see them with your soul.
And the last road sign to inner peace that I am going to mention is the one that tells you that you are a unique, beautiful, worthy, deserving individual. You know that you deserve the best that life has to offer, and you wont settle for any less.
Inner Peace is the only destination that really matters in life. It is the place where we were all meant to dwell in. Inner Peace is where the Divine meets the human, and the journey is well marked if you know how to recognize the signs.
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